Another Thought


Today at work one of the women told one of the men that “if all men were like him then the world would be a better place”. This annoyed me for many reasons. The guy in question is just a nice guy. As far as I know he hasn’t pulled anyone out of a burning building, he hasn’t found or a cure for cancer or brought peace to the Middle East. Hes just nice. He always says hello to everyone and is friendly. And yet all men should “be like him”. Which implies that most men aren’t. Apparently they’re incapable of being friendly to people. It’s not the friendliness of course – it’s the implication. The implication that because he’s friendly, he must be a good, kind, caring man. Because a good man is hard to find, they’re like bloody buses, if you find a good one you should hang on to him, etc, etc, etc…
Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s just so boring. Men like football, going to the pub and treat women like crap. Women worry about how they look and ask if their bum looks big in this. They also nag the men about how they’re treated, but mostly accept it, exchanging a knowing glance with their friends. Accepting their fate.
Is this all there is for interaction between the sexes? I like to think not. Why are we pigeon-holing ourselves? Putting ourselves into boxes? The film Entourage was slated by critics and fans this year, for its portrayal of men as sexist, shallow and only wanting artificial things. Like sex with no commitment and money. Tge film was criticises by women, but also by men – men who were sick of being portrayed this way.
Gender stereotyping doesn’t just happen to women. And of course, I haven’t even touched on transgender or gender neutral people. There are stereotypes for them too. Hopefully we can all stop being scared to find out about the person behind the stereotype.

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